We are the church, the bride of Christ

Years ago I received a mission from the Lord to pray for his church, his bride, his body–to pray for her unity and mutual love. This morning in prayer, God’s Spirit reminded me of a passage from Paul:

Ephesians 5: 35-37 (Paraphrase) Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, just as Christ did for us, his church. May your love be a matter of sacrifice and giving to her, not out of your need to receive.

Just as Christ’s love makes His church whole, your love will bring out the best in your wife. Everything he does and says is designed to bring out the best in his bride, whom he dresses in a dazzling white gown, radiant with holiness and without fault. That is how you Christian husbands must love your wives. Love and cherish them as you do your own flesh. For a man who loves his wife actually loves himself, since “you are “one flesh.” When you do this, you both will benefit and God will be glorified.

The first thing about this text  is the Apostle uses the feminine pronoun “she.”(Greek: autei). The church is not an  “it.”  The church is the family of God’, a living entity, not an institution. We are Christ’s bride, his living, breathing body on earth. We are the church.

The second is the joy and mystery of the profound unity of man and woman–husband and wife– in the  sacred bond of marriage. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and  mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2: 24)

My third response is perplexity. How can God Almighty transform this deeply flawed church of his so that she becomes his glorious bride, one without spot or wrinkle or any fault?  It stretches my faith to the limit.  Yet His Word is clear that he does do this and at his appearing will perform this great miracle of transformation. Or, perhaps the transformation will continue even beyond that. The Bible doesn’t say.

But for me, now, and for many men I know, the main point of this passage is, while, like me, my wife is deeply flawed, I am to love her unconditionally, as Christ loves his own bride. I can do this if I choose to do it AND if I trust Him to give me His agape Spirit to accomplish it.

Recently, I’ve been finding God’s grace to take a few faltering steps in this direction, answering her negatives with soft positives, not feisty arguments. Funny thing is, when I do, she changes and answers me with a softer, kinder spirit.

As a result, we have been having much fewer conflicts. But that’s not the best part. As  I overlook her flaws  to focus on her good qualities, our relationship blossoms. When she receives from me the positive attention and love she craves, I find pleasure just being with her.  Yes, it’s great! Little by little we are helping each other become better than we were.  And through all this, God is glorified.

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What Do You Think?

Argument or Agreement? I am alarmed at how the church of Jesus and our United States nation are becoming more and more divided. I wonder if those who devote themselves to arguing for or against right or left in faith and/or politics are considering the damage they do. It saddens me to see how they limit themselves to dwelling in their blind spots. Does fighting for their views really change anything for the better? It saddens me how constant, unremitting debate, fails to reverence the larger landscape–the beauty of God’s enormous love in Christ and the profound harmony of His universe. After all, the Apostle is clear that God’s ultimate objective is unity and harmony, not disagreement and argument. When I consider the many ways we do agree, I am at peace. When I focus on our differences, or worse, argue for mine against yours, I add to the boiling crisis dividing us and get irritable bowel syndrome in the bargain.

What do You Think?

Uncle Sam or Jesus? My obedience to Christ includes bearing witness to Him by my conduct of life and my words. If I resort to using politics to realize Christ’s agenda, I fall into a quagmire. When I hope to see His purposes achieved through government, do I head towards Him or away from Him? Didn’t he say, “Render to Caesar what is Caesar’s and to God what is God’s?” Isn’t it clear that the issue is “not serving two masters?” I love my country, but to whom do I pledge my obedience and loyalty—Uncle Sam or Jesus? It’s got to be one or the other.

What do You Think?


“My Friend Irma”…

was a radio show back in the day. This Irma’s not so friendly though. As my wife and I wait her arrival in SW Florida, we have undergone all the vicissitudes of the weather–from anxiety, to calm, to terror and even laughter. Last night my son in Houston, called. Since our prayers for his family’s safety from Harvey were answered, I prayed with faith, “Oh, Lord, calm this vicious storm. Reduce its winds and floods to a category three or even two.” My son, Wade replied, “Look, Dad, if I’m going to ask for a miracle, I’m going all the way, “Lord, reduce the winds to a tropical depression.” “Never mind,” I told him, “I was at Walmart last night and believe me, there’s lots of depression here already.”

Slow and steady, Charlene and I are praying as though it all depends on God and working as though it all depends on us.  We have done pretty much all we can do to secure our stuff. At this writing, I not only feel physically strong for my 77 years, but even better, the storm in my heart has died down, leaving me with an odd sense of well-being.  You might be thinking, “The old man has really flipped his lid this time!”” Be assured. I have never felt so sane.

When I had Stage IV cancer, my son advised me to praise God, which I did, on long walks and found  victory. I’m finding it easier this time around. So, while Charlene naps with her cat, I’m in my room with my wonder dog Quincy, (Did you know dog is God spelled backwards?). I’m offering these words of hope and comfort as assurances of our well-being as we face the storm within and without.

 Fear has fled in the face of joy. Psalms, hymns, songs and promises like, “Rejoice in the Lord always. andMy peace I give you,” have taken on new meaning. While many have fled the area, Charlene and I have God’s assurance we are to remain in our home. Some may say, “Flee like a bird to the mountain, but we have already fled– straight into the arms of God.  Psalm 11.1. Well, not many mountains in Florida, anyway and if we went to a shelter, Charlene couldn’t take her special recliner needed as she recovers from recent shoulder surgery. Besides, we would have to leave our children, Quincy and Annabelle behind. Not happening.

And so my heart is glad. My soul is full of joy. My body also dwells in safety, without fear.” The words of of the Psalmist kind of reflects my present mood, but it could change in a moment. This 2nd verse from the Finlandia hymn has always been special to me. Now it’s much more so.

Be still, my soul; thy God doth undertake
To guide the future as He has the past.
Thy hope, thy confidence, let nothing shake;
All now mysterious shall be bright at last.
Be still, my soul; the waves and winds still know
His voice who ruled them while He dwelt below.

This song has also been helpful, especially when I sing them out loud.

You are my hiding place. You always fill my heart
With songs of deliverance, whenever I am afraid
I will trust in You. I will trust in You.
Let the weak say I am strong in the strength of the Lord

Finally, because “It is well with my soul,” I believe Charlene, sensing my well-being, is finding it as well .

Be safe out there.

What Can We Do About Our Divisions?

Our last post traced some root causes for our many divisions among Christians.  In this post we show why unity is necessary and offer ways to restore it. 

  Part 1:  If Christianity is to recover from its malaise, we believers must lay down our swords and move towards each other in peace. God’s ultimate plan for our broken world is “to bring all things  together in unity through Christ both in heaven and earth.” (Eph 1:10-12) . In the meantime, may we help heal our broken church that she may find  ways to model agreement and harmony, fulfilling God’s dream for His church.


  1. 1. Jesus’ heart cries out for it “I pray for them Father…that they will all be one,…may they be one. May they be together in unitymay they be one. In this, his high-priestly prayer, urgency grips the Saviour. Over and over he repeats his plea to the Father for us “to be one.” [BTW: Wesley wisely observed that the Bible’s most essential truths are the ones most repeated].
  2. Unity reflects the nature of the Tri-une God. Other words in his prayer shine a light on the doctrine of the trinity–God’s unity within himself.Father, as you and I are one— as you are in me– as you are  in me, Father, and I am in you.”
  3. We are called to ”Imitate God and follow Christ’s example of love” (Eph. 5:1), If we imitate God and follow Christ we will find grace to resist temptations to argue and disagree with each other.  After all, if you are a believer, is it my job to criticize or correct your beliefs or is it to love and encourage you? [see Galatians 6: 1-5]
  4. Without unity our witness to the world is stymied. Jesus emphasizes how  Christians in harmony authenticate their mission. “…then the world will BELIEVE you sent me”  and “…the world will KNOW you sent me.
  5. When we demonstrate God’s unity among ourselves, outsiders will notice and be impressed. The gospel of love we preach will become visible to them when we imitate God’s unity and model Christ’s love among ourselves.
  6. When we quarrel and disagree, compete but don’t cooperate, we lose our saltiness and hide our light. (Matt. 5:13-16). Jesus called us to “be” his  witnesses,” living the gospel before we “tell” a broken world God’s good news. (Acts 1:8)
  7. Unity goes hand in hand with Jesus’ new covenant love command to: 1] Love one another” as I have loved you—that’s how you should  2] “love and treat each other” 3] “your love for one another will be proof to the world that you are my disciples. (John 3: 34, 35). In John 15; 12, 17, We read: 4] “Love one another as I have loved you” 5]“love one another. Five times he pleads for this so we see how urgent is this for Him and vital to us!
  8. The promised results for obeying his command is the same as the one in his prayer: Brotherly love offers proof to lost, hungry souls we are genuine and our message is true.

 Part 2: Vital Ways To Restore Unity.  DWJD:  We can pray corporately and privately as Jesus did, with fervent expectation ti the Father for….

  •  Mutual love and harmony to take root in our fellowships and for that spirit spread across our divided church and  land. Who knows? Our prayers may help put “united” back in the USA. Pray we will put aside differences, focusing on our common faith and love for Jesus –obeying his command to “love one another.”
  • Peace in our homes. Paul offers 365 words of good counsel to families In Eph. 5,6. When family members follow them, God’s peace will strengthen our family ties.
  • Harmony in other relationships Charity (love) starts at home, but it mustn’t stay there:  “As far as possible, be at peace with everyone.” (Rom.  12:18) “Do good to all, especially to those of God’s family.”  (Gal 6:10)
  • Prayer Requires Actions. Ask God as if everything depended on Him. Act as though it all depends on you.     
  • Our next few posts will explore Biblical nuts and bolts strategies to implement Christ’s law of love and fulfill his plea for unity. Please, share your comments. It encourages us if we know folks read our stuff.

P.S. Seven Words From Scripture To Help Confirm This Truth To Our Hearts. 

  1. Peace: (eirenei) Inner peace comes when we have peace with God & others.
  2. One accord: (homothumadon) In Acts whenever disciples are “of one mind and heart,” God blesses them with rapid growth and miracles.
  3. Agreement/harmony: (symphanos) Jesus promised His special presence when we agree. “How good it is when brethren dwell together”…like a symphony
  4. Reconciliation: (katalogei) God unites and restores us to himself, then calls us to be his ambassadors of reconciliation to unite others to God and one another.
  5. Love: (agape). “I show you a more excellent way.” Where I Cor. 13 love is practiced, unity follows. If we are in unity, expect miracles of grace.
  6. Friendship: (philei) “I now call you my friends. If you are my friends, you will obey my commandment to love one another as I have loved you.”
  7. Fellowship (koinonia) is our common love for Christ and one another.

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